June 22, 2009

Age is mind over matter

An old friend sent me an article about growing old. A very good article indeed and I thought I should share some very good points from the article as well as some of my own views about growing old.

One fine evening when I was taking a stroll with my son around our neighbourhood, one of my neighbours, a retired “uncle” in his 70s saw us walking by his house. With all good intentions, he waved and said “Good evening Mr Shiek, taking your grandson for a walk?” Grandson? Hmmmm, do I look that old? Well, maybe I do look as though I should have grand kids. Was I offended? NO, not at all! I don’t mind actually.

“Uncle” or “Uncle Shiek” is what I am politely called now. In the next few years I will be hitting the big 5. I cannot deny I am getting old because when I see a beautiful young girl nowadays, I would say: “Wow, her mother must be very beautiful”. Get it?

I don’t mind that when I laugh I may show a lot more wrinkles and that my hairs have turned grey. I will never trade my wrinkles and grey hairs for anything. I have seen so many that have never ever laughed and died before their hairs turned grey.

I don’t mind that the years may have wrinkled my skin. As long as I don’t let the years wrinkled my soul. I don’t mind that the same wrinkles won’t let me keep the beauty on my face anymore so I just moved it to my heart.

I don’t mind that the world seems to slow down as I grow older. I have seen too many dear friends leaving this world too fast before they enjoy the privilege that comes with ageing. I don’t mind that my heart have been broken so many times as I have lost so many loved ones along the way. Broken hearts are what give us strength, understanding and compassion. A heart never broken will never know the joy of imperfect.

I don’t mind that when I walked on the beach showing my weathered body despite pitying glances from young ones. I actually pitied them. They may not have a chance to grow old like me. I don’t mind that I may shuffle my cards a bit slower. Not many people still have a full deck of cards to shuffle.

I don’t mind that I will have more candles on my birthday cake. The more candles I have, the longer I live. As time moves on, I may even get a bit forgetful but I don’t mind that too. Some things in life may very well be forgotten.

I don’t mind knowing that I will finally die. I am glad that I have found what I am willing to die for. If you have not found what you are willing to die for then you are not worth living.

I’ll say this: “Age is mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”.



The trekker, agnes said...

Hi Shiek, profound wisdom in growing old, you should listen to Julie Andrew's 'My favorite things " in You tube, it's the best to describe how it it when age catch up, your favorite things will be different...

Anonymous said...

hi shiek,

yup, i agree wt u mind over matter! i believe an older person who has experienced more in life has more "life" than a younger person who has not experienced much things in life. as i like reading, i realise there r successful people, icld those CEOs who have a balanced life, doing different things in work n personal. that makes them a richer n wiser person.

i m also quite open about growing old. As long as I njoy doing things that some may think over d era (too old for now), i m still young in heart! i m quite sure even when i grow into 50s in d future, i'll still dance like nobody is watching!

so, let's live life to d fullest!



Shiek Eng Meng said...


Thanks again for your comments ... growing old is a privilege.

This privilege is only given when one is capable of understanding and facing the challenges, going thru the ups and downs during the journey and experiencing all the different stages as we aged.

It is a long process.