TIME

Time, I thought I have bags full of it ... used to spent it like it will never finished.

I gave days to work, to entertain others, to chase for materials and to fill other people's time table.

I delayed many aspects of my life. I thought they could wait.

Children came and they grew to became adults and I grew to be golden.

Many old friends missed and less and less coming to gatherings.

Retirement is nice. Time for my own but retirement is also the last turn of the journey. You can almost see the finishing line.

I woke up to see that time has taken yesterday and I have already spent some today.

Sometimes I said time is passing fast.

No, time is there standing still in the universe for millions of years alone and does not belong to anyone.

I am passing.

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I AM TIRED !

Yes, I am a tired.

Lived through May 13th, Great KL flood, the last of MCE, 86's recession, dial-up internet, 97's financial crisis, Y2K, 1MDB, Ini Kali Lah, Apa Malu Bossku, Sheraton Move, "I have FORMIDABLE numbers", COVID and 3 different Parliaments in 5 years !

Now on a shaky UNITY train heading into a dark tunnel where I see a light at the end of the tunnel but very likely it is a bloody train coming head on at smashing speed.

I am tired, of NONSENSE !!! ☝️

See, nowadays there are just too much nonsense everywhere, on national news, FB, IG, TikTok and other similar social media platforms.

In a coffee shop, one old uncle talks like he is a top investment consultant after reading an FB posting by a suspicious investment outfit with charts and graphs showing arrows pointing everywhere.

In a neighbourhood whatsapp group, one aunty is absolutely convinced that boiled ginger, pandan leaves and lemongrass water can cure cancer if drank continuously for 4 months. And the same aunty is also very sure that solar panels installed by her neighbour are electrifying her with nightly dreams of vivid rainbow coloured spectrums.

Then there is an ex-secondary schoolmate who suddenly became a happiness guru after watching two TikTok videos of some AI generated photos with quotes about work and life balance.

Last but not least, in another whatapps group, there is someone who forward anything and everything without going through a simple logic filter that a normal human being would have, something everyone called common sense.

And he seemed quite rushed, he types without commas, apostrophes or full stops.

At times, I am not sure if he was trying to say "lets eat, my friend" or "lets eat my friend".

On FB, IG and other platforms, people share facts, news, events and at times moments of our life. Maybe get a 👍 or a ❤️ and some kind comments from friends every now and then, it feels good. At least among the thousands of FB friends, some still think you are relevant.

But then again, what you share and how you write can be interpreted in many ways. Like when you think you are telling people about your success, it can be interpreted as arrogance.

You post a photo of a new car and say "I worked hard for this" and then someone will think "show off". And maybe that is exactly what you are doing.

Or you baked a cake and say "recipe passed down by my beloved late mother". Then someone may say "Oh really? I definitely saw this recipe on youtube".

And on the comments on people postings, there are those who disguise the actual purpose of their comments. Like one comment which I read on a friend's posting of a photo showing her at the base a Himalayan camp and someone commented "On your left about 10m away, there is a big white boulder. Is it still there?".

Now is the person really asking whether the boulder is still there?

Arrogance comes in different disguises. Nonsense comes in various forms. When you live long enough, you will develop a highly sensitive and sharp detection of arrogance and nonsense on social media platforms.

And then there is stupidity, that is the easiest to detect of them all. You can see them coming from a mile away.

See, when someone tells you that the increase in EV cars in the neighbourhood, are the reason that the stray cats are getting more fertile, now, that I really don't know what to say. But if I were to tell it to our good old no-nonsense Mr Bala, the head security guard, I am sure he will say "mana sekolah dia baca?"

On the political front, there are nonsense overflowing endlessly. Every other day you will see politicians spewing out nonsense that are untying every aspects of a multi-racial, multi-cultural and multi-religious society and these are the people sitting in the Parliament making policies for the country.

So, when I said earlier that I am on a shaky UNITY train heading into a dark tunnel, I am not joking.

But what can an ordinary rakyat do? You can shout until your BUDI95 allocation runs out and still these political dramas continue like a Netflix series with prequels and sequels.

The only real power you have is your vote. So come next GE, you decide who you want to put in the Parliament. I don't know who or what you are voting for but I will tell you what I am voting for.

I will vote for data not drama.

I have lived long enough to see 10 PMs and have seen enough of those political wayangs. Now I am collecting data, analysing, carefully watching and that will decide my vote.

Really I am tired, at this point of my life, I don't need anymore nonsense.

No whatsapp gurus of happiness, no need for any home boiled recipes for diseases, no shouting in front of Sogo, I don't care if Trump is going to swim across the Hormuz, I don't need anyone recommending me any investment opportunity and I don't need colourful PowerPoint slides telling me how to live my life better.

At 64 and staying as far away as possible from nonsense, arrogance and stupidity, I think I will do just fine.

Most mornings I will have my usual kopi-O while the whole world is debating if ZUS or HTC is better.

Some days I will walk with my Canon Rebel T4i and look for simple beautiful things that are abundance around us but often missed because people are spending more time on social media platforms trying to be relevant.

I have my weekly badminton games with a bunch of people who love chasing feathers as much as I do and who can make fun of each other's weaknesses and enjoy every game regardless of wins or losses.

I have good friends who can sit and talk until the cows come home, laugh at each other jokes that were told umpteen times and interrupt each other constantly, then forget what was the previous topic and somehow everyone goes home happy.

Sitting down for a kopi-O with Mrs Shiek

Lastly, I am enjoying the closeness and companionship of someone who does not need to be pampered with big bundles of flowers or expensive gifts on special days, just someone who is willing to sit with me for a roti canai and a teh tarik, any day.

 

 

LIVING IN THE SIXTIES

I turned 62 today … YES, sudah ENAM PULUH DUA … born in the 60s and living in my 60s.

A tiger 🐯 of 1962 and lived for a good 62 years … boy, that is a long journey ... so far so good ...👍

First, let me say that I have not been actively writing for a while now. Used to write an article every month or two but my last article was almost a year ago. No excuse … just plain lazy … hehehe ... 😝

OK, so I am 62 today … what is it like to be 62?

Well, I am ALIVE !!!` … now that is a good sign, isn’t it?

Depends ... "staying alive" and "living a live" are two totally different things.

And things can happen in a snap ... I have seen too many people, some quite close to me, who seems to be healthily up and about, suddenly just drop and gone ... yes, one too many really.

But having said that, I am glad for now, I am alive and living a life even though it is at a later part of my life.

At this age, things slowed down quite a lot … physically especially. Like many old uncles, I tried to show people that I can still move a bit … so go trek in the forest, weekly badminton games, cycling around in the neighborhood and some other physical activities but I know it is not like before … the stamina, the strength, the mobility and the flexibility are not performing so well.

Albeit the slowing down … I still try to stay active physically and also keep a mentally active mode. Try lah … balance it for as long as I can.

Balance … now, you hear a lot of people talking about life balance or a balanced life … so, what is balance?

You worked so hard in your younger days and now you enjoy all you can for the rest of your life? You made so much and you must spend so much? Or, you worked so hard and you party as hard too?

Well, that is not wrong ya … everyone has their own ideas of what is a balanced life.

But, for me “balance” encompassed a lot more things … quite a broad range of things … at least in my life.

OK, what is balance to me?

Food … not diet (I come to diet later) … whatever you consume, the extra calories must be burnt ... the extra calories means fat and this fat MUST go. But many don’t really take this seriously. We all enjoy our food but we must also be aware of the fat that we are accumulating and the extra fat (visible and hidden) collected is not good. It is not that we should not eat the food we like … eat as much as you can but the EXTRA calories must be shed with proper exercises or physical activities.

Drinking … now, old uncles like me likes to have a bit of alcohol every now and then. Be it beers, wines, whiskies, tuak or Moutai … very often we sit down with friends and have a glass or two in casual and social gatherings. As usual, sometimes we tend to over-indulged, well more often than not actually. So, how do we balance situation like this? For me, the balance here is measured against your tolerances, your threshold, your awareness and most important of all, it is measured by the limitations of the law (especially if you are driving). Drink responsibly.

Social media … we are exposed to a host of social media platforms … FB, Instagram, Tiktok, Twitter (or X as it is now known) and other similar platforms. We spend long hours with our eyes glued on our phone or pad or computer, scrolling every day … so much so that it has become unhealthily damaging. So how do we balance this in our everyday lives?

We must stop it? Don’t kid yourself … we can’t live without these social media nowadays. But yes, we can balance it … how? My formula is simple … the amount of time we spend looking at the phone or computer … we spend the same (if not more) looking at trees, leaves, ponds, lakes, clouds and the sky. Yes, it is that simple.

Diet … how to balance your diet? Look, you don’t have to say that you must not eat this or you must not eat that unless it is on doctor’s orders. We can eat whatever we like … just that we must be aware that certain health problems can arise when we have too much of something … for example sugar.

So, just consume moderately of certain things … just be aware that if you have too much meat yesterday, maybe today you take less meat or if you have a sweet cake in the morning maybe you cut down the dessert after dinner. You have too much carbo during lunch, maybe take a bit more fiber at dinner. You must be aware of what you are consuming, then you can adjust your intake of carbo or fiber or sugar or fats accordingly.

Activities … what is a balanced daily life? … especially for retired people. Move, be mobile and be active. Do things or find things to do. If you go morning walk for two hours every morning … what about for the rest of the day? If you are lazy and just want to sit and watch TV or play games on laptop or your phone … you are not living a life, you are just damaging it or rotting it away.

Do things … in the garden or maybe in the kitchen. Sing, read or write. Make something … paint, draw or photograph. Maybe line-dancing or taichi or qigong. Stay on your feet and keep moving.

Core and structure … are you standing properly? Can you bend, squat or simply turn without pain? How about your posture? Strengthen your core, your structure … go to the gym. Not to build yourself like Arnold Schwarzenegger (you can’t anyway) but you can do some pulls and stretches, pushes and bends to strengthen your core and structure. Go search on youtube … there are plenty of ways to do just that. If you like, you can do it at the comfort of your home too. If your core and structure is strong … you walk better, you move better … you live better.

Mental … are you learning? Learning is the best way to keep our minds active. Whether we are learning about new things that are happening in the world or we are just learning simple things like a new recipe or a new game, it keeps our mind working. Yes as we grow older we spend more time reminiscing good memories and the good old times but we must not look at the rear view mirror too often. Our minds, our thinking must keep moving forward accepting new things, new ways, new discoveries and new ideas.

Relationship … when people grow older, there are those who like to keep to themselves and adapt an “I call you, you don’t call me” attitude. Well, I cannot say that it is wrong. But I think we need to be mixing and corresponding with people … we need to maintain a balanced engaging relationship between family, relatives, friends, neighbors or ex-colleagues via gatherings, visits, invites … have games group and attend social meetings or at least have dialogs through video calls, messages or chats regularly.

OK, that’s all I could think of for now … maybe you have more to add to your life.

So, you see living in the sixties (I mean living in your sixties, not living in the 1960s ya) is not so boring actually … not like what people said … “when you retired, you are staying at home waiting to die”. Of course, maybe the activities are not as happening as your younger days but the important thing is, living in your sixties can be very enjoyable at a slightly slower pace.

Very often you hear people say …“live and enjoy your life” …  yes, but to live your life and enjoy your life when you are in your sixties (or even older) … you must be in a good and fairly healthy lifestyle.

To be in a good and fairly healthy lifestyle … you must have a balanced life.